Missing Out
September 19th, 2006 by justme
Having spent some time with my mother-in-law, I see how some people can be there but not be their at all. She was around to be with her grandaughter the entire week. She was making time by being away from work. But, she was not really there. She was on the phone constantly speaking with her staff but and complaining that her staff was calling. On the other hand, she told her staff that she is working from home. In a way, she was not there for her work or her family. The problem was that she could not possibly bring herself to take part of the week off and go to the office for the other. Then she would feel that she was missing out. From my wife’s account of her childhood she had been doing that for many years. By not wanting to feel that she is missing anything, she had in effect missed everything.
I hope that she will make decisions on what is important to attend to and what is not. It may not always be family as we sometimes feel that it is the right thing to choose, but it should be one thing at one time. I hope my daughter’s relationship with her will not be like that of my wife’s with her. I hope that my daughter will not be disappointed with her grandmother.